Hi, my name is Fanny Tristan, trauma therapist, mother, daughter of Afro-Peruvian immigrants, and founder of Restority Space.

Growing up, I was the one who had to figure things out first.

• The first to go to college.

• The first to start a good career.

• The first to show my family what was possible.

I carried the expectations, the unspoken pressure, and the weight of being the one who "made it."

When I say I know this role, I don't mean birth order in the literal sense. I mean the one who gets assigned the responsibility, whether she's the oldest child, an only child, or somewhere in between. In immigrant families especially, that role often lands on whoever gets there first, first to speak the language fluently, first to navigate a new system, first to succeed in a way the family can point to. That was me. It may be you too.

For a long time, I struggled to find my own voice. I learned early that being valuable meant being responsible. That my worth was measured by how much I could handle, fix, and hold together for everyone else. I knew how to achieve, how to perform, how to meet the highest standards, but not how to ask for help.

I get it, because I've lived it. And now, I help women like you rewrite that story.

How I Got Here

I've spent over 15 years as a licensed trauma therapist, working in psychiatric and community mental health settings across New York and New Jersey. I've supported individuals dealing with complex trauma, anxiety, and relationship challenges in a wide range of environments, from clinical practices to community organizations.

But I knew I wanted to create a space that was deeply personal, specialized, and built for women like me, women like you.

That's why I founded Restority Space, focusing my work on eldest daughters, whether by birth order or by role, who are ready to break the cycle of perfectionism, over-responsibility, and self-neglect.

Therapy for Eldest Daughters Who Are Ready for Real Change

If you're here, you've probably tried to push through, do more, and be better. You've convinced yourself that if you just work harder or plan better, you'll finally feel at ease.

But what if relief doesn't come from doing more, but from learning to let go?

At Restority Space, I help high-achieving eldest daughters:

• Untangle perfectionism and self-doubt

• Stop over-functioning in relationships

• Set boundaries without guilt

• Trust themselves again, without second-guessing every decision

Therapy with me isn't just about talking, it's about giving you a clear, structured path forward.

What Working With Me Feels Like

• I see you. You don't have to prove that what you've been through matters. I already know it does.

• I get how your brain works. You're rational, analytical, and results-driven, and you want a therapy process that actually moves you forward.

• I balance structure with warmth. Therapy with me is both strategic and grounded, a space where you'll be held accountable to your growth, without judgment.

• I help you see what's possible. You're used to carrying everyone else's expectations on your back. But what about your own? I want to help you build a life that feels like yours.

Beyond the Therapy Room

I also speak and write about these patterns publicly, through interviews, speaking engagements, and conversations exploring birth order, trauma, and the roles high-achieving women carry. If a consultation feels like a big first step, that's a lower-pressure place to start.

Restority Space is my clinical practice. If you're looking for community and conversation rather than individual therapy, you'll find that through Her Soul Supply.

Professional Credentials

• Master’s Degree, Fordham University

• Fluent in Spanish

• Clinically Licensed in New York, New Jersey, & Connecticut

• Trained and Rostered in Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT)

• Certified in Anti-Racist and Multicultural Practice

• Trained in Seminar in Field Instruction (SIFI)

Your Next Step: A Space to Focus on You

You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Therapy is where you get to put yourself first.